As a young family just starting out, there are so many decisions to make and new responsibilities placed on your shoulders. Not only are you charged with caring for and nurturing your marriage, but also caring for and raising a baby who will (hopefully) become an adult who is a productive member of society and loves the Lord. But how do you do all of this?

While many difficult decisions are still ahead, it’s important to remember to prioritize your spiritual growth. While we know that being a Christian doesn’t magically make an “easy button” appear, placing God at the forefront of your mind and heart may help some things fall into place in a way that surprises you. Remember to ask yourself these 6 questions to help facilitate spiritual growth as a family:

If I knew Jesus would return tomorrow, would I be worried about this? 

Is there a right or wrong in this situation? 

What would he encourage me to do if Jesus were standing right here now?

What is the purpose of my time on earth and my role in this family?

Does what I’m doing right now really matter?

How are your actions and words impacting the way your children view God’s love? 

As you continually contemplate these questions throughout the many stages of life, ask yourself if you feel that you’re a reflection of God’s love or if you’re seeking to earn “points” or favor with God or men. Remember that your salvation is not based on these invisible brownie points and that God judges your heart.

If things get confusing or complicated, meditate on this verse and remember that God wants to have a relationship with you, not to have you behave perfectly. Allow yourself grace, and you will find that God will help you grow in the ways he sees and will best build his Kingdom.

You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. – Jeremiah 29:13